She came in and sat in a chair where she could see me and the TV. I could tell she was trying to figure things out in her mind. After awhile she started questioning me again about going out and having some fun. I continued to act depressed providing only short answers. She was wearing one of her work dresses and it came down midway down her calves so not much was showing. It was enough though to have an effect on me. I was getting happier just sitting there with her cheerful personality, broad smile and sexy legs. I didn’t want her to see me cheering up. I yawned feigning tiredness and told her “Mom, I think I’ll retire early tonight. I’m feeling pretty tired”.
I got up to go to my room. She had a concerned look on her face and I felt a little bad putting her through this. I did love this woman and I didn’t want to hurt her. Forty five minutes later the email came in.
Hi Sue.
I’ve been thinking about what you wrote and I’m a little hesitant about communicating my personal information to someone I haven’t met. I can understand your reasoning though and I would like to participate. The fact that you’re a single-parent mother also convinces me that this is worth pursuing. You can truly relate how difficult it is to raise a child as a single mother. I think you’ll be more understanding than other professionals that don’t have your background.
I have noticed my son getting more and more depressed. I’m worried for him and don’t know how to proceed. Our communications have deteriorated and I’m afraid of losing him. I’d like to keep it low profile and help him any way I can. What methodology are you using? If possible, I’d like to start as soon as possible. I am taking this week off from work and can devote some time to helping my son.
Thanks,
Betty
Success! That worked out better than I thought it would. I figured at this point she felt more personally connected to Dr Sue. I started to work on my next reply. I waited an hour to send it.
Betty,
Thanks for your confidence in me. I’d be happy to help you and if you have any more questions, please feel free to ask me. As far as the procedure, it’s quite simple and very effective as long as you adhere to the guidelines.
The objective is to get your son more confident in relationships. This is accomplished without his knowledge, so you don’t need to worry about discussing this with him. Since we can’t really send a stranger in to boost his confidence we use the only resource that’s available and that’s his mother, you. He probably still cares for you even though he’s depressed and will react favorably with someone he knows. We boost his confidence interacting with you until he is on solid ground and then once he’s fully confident we introduce him to other relationships.
The first step is to get him attracted to the opposite sex again. This will help his confidence level. This may be a little uncomfortable for you but the rewards of a future healthy relationship are worth it. I need you to dress a little less conservative and flirt with him if you can. Hopefully he’s not in such a depressed state that he won’t be attracted to you.